The truth is no one wants to be criticized, but everyone wants to grow. Why do you think that is? We say we want to improve, but we hate the growing pains. I am not suggesting that all criticism is good. What I am suggesting is that we can always learn something from our interactions with other people. We could learn the things about ourselves that we don’t notice until someone else points them out; these are also called our blind spots. We could learn how to stand up for ourselves, how to communicate better, and maybe even when to end a relationship. All of which are valuable learning experiences. If these lessons are beneficial to us, why do we avoid them? It is the same reason why people avoid most things; it's because it makes them feel uncomfortable. Fortunately, our feelings can be regulated. Our negative feelings do not have to have the final say.
Here are eight ways to deal with criticism:
Yes, I said it and I said it first. We are often so overloaded with information that we cannot possibly think clearly. Talk to God about it. He might be speaking through that person.
It does not matter what was said, if you feel offended, decide to forgive immediately. Forgiveness is not for them, but it’s for you. You cannot have a wholehearted conversation if your heart is consumed with bitterness.
3) With an Open Mind
As I said earlier, you can learn something from every experience. Do not be too hasty when making decisions. You don’t want to miss a blessing.
Be honest with yourself. Is there any truth to what is being said? Take a moment to write your feelings down and get to the bottom of the matter.
It is important not to be on the extreme end of the spectrum. Make sure not be too emotional when you respond. It is more difficult to make decisions that way. Moreover, you might say something you'll later regret.
Fear is a major reason why criticism is hard for us to deal with. We are afraid of feeling insignificant. If we are not bold, we might allow fearful thoughts to take up residence in our mind.
7) Short and Sweet
Guess what? If someone uses unkind or hurtful words, you do have to accept their comments. You do not want to be unkind like they were. Always respond with love. However, keep it concise and to the point. Do not throw your pearls to the swine.
8) With an Exit
After, you have done a self-assessment. Do an assessment on the other party. Every relationship is not worth keeping. You might need to let that connection go right away.
Criticism is tricky. It can make us feel uncomfortable, so we tend to avoid it. However, when it comes to growth, avoidance only keeps us stuck. You are called to a greater purpose. Therefore, learning how to cope with the hard stuff is necessary. Once you get the courage to face the situation, you will see incredible results.